Navigating Online Dating with a Disability: Tips and Advice
Dating with a disability can be incredibly daunting and overwhelming, but we are here to give you top tips and advice on how to make the process as stress-free and enjoyable as possible. So, if you’re looking for love, or just looking to meet new friends, we have you covered! Representation/Visibility of Online Dating with a disability Online dating platforms have made great strides in improving the visibility and representation of disabilities. In the past, there was a lack of inclusivity and understanding when it came to disabled individuals looking for love online. However, today many dating platforms have dedicated sections or filters specifically for people with disabilities. This allows individuals to find others who have similar experiences and challenges, fostering a sense of community and understanding. Representation is also important in creating a more inclusive online dating environment. By featuring disabled individuals in advertisements and promotional materials, dating platforms can help break down stereotypes and misconceptions. This not only benefits disabled users by providing them with a platform where they feel seen and valued, but it also educates the general public about the experiences of people with disabilities. Challenges of Online Dating with a Disability While online dating can be challenging for anyone, disabled individuals may face additional obstacles. One of the main challenges is the misconception that disabilities define a person’s worth or capabilities. This can lead to misconceptions and prejudices, making it harder to find genuine connections. Another challenge is navigating accessibility issues. Some dating platforms may not be fully accessible for individuals with certain disabilities, such as those who are visually impaired or have limited mobility. It is important to choose a platform that prioritizes accessibility and provides a user-friendly experience for everyone. Additionally, there may be a fear of rejection or judgment. It can be daunting to disclose one’s disability to a potential partner, as there is always a risk of being misunderstood or discriminated against. However, it is important to remember that everyone has their unique qualities and that the right person will appreciate and accept you for who you are. Choosing the Right Dating Platform When it comes to online dating with a disability, choosing the right dating platform is essential. Look for platforms that have inclusive features and prioritize accessibility. Some platforms have specific sections or filters for disabled individuals, making it easier to find like-minded people. It is also important to consider the size and diversity of the user base. A larger user base increases the chances of finding someone compatible, while a diverse user base ensures a variety of perspectives and experiences. Reading reviews and testimonials from other disabled users can also provide insight into the platform’s inclusivity and effectiveness. Lastly, consider the features and functionality of the platform. Look for features that facilitate communication and connection, such as chat options, video calls, or compatibility matching algorithms. These features can help you connect with others and find meaningful relationships. You can check out our article ‘Top 5 Dating Websites For People With Disabilities’ for our guide on which dating websites / platforms we recommend for people living with disabilities Communicating Effectively Effective communication is crucial in online dating, especially when navigating a disability. Here are some tips for communicating effectively: – Be open and honest about your disability: It is important to disclose your disability early on, as it helps to build trust and ensures that potential partners are aware of your unique needs and experiences. – Focus on your strengths and interests: While it is important to be honest about your disability, it is equally important to highlight your strengths and interests. Show potential partners what makes you unique and interesting beyond your disability. – Ask questions and listen actively: Take the time to ask your potential partner questions about themselves and actively listen to their responses. This shows genuine interest and helps to establish a deeper connection. – Be patient and understanding: Remember that not everyone may have experience or knowledge about disabilities. Be patient and understanding when answering questions or addressing concerns. – Use accessible communication methods: If you have specific communication needs, such as using sign language or assistive devices, communicate this to your potential partner and find ways to accommodate each other’s communication styles. Navigating the First Date The first date can be nerve-wracking for anyone, but with a disability, there may be additional considerations. Here are some tips for navigating the first date: – Choose an accessible venue: If you have specific accessibility needs, such as wheelchair accessibility or proximity to public transportation, communicate this to your date and choose a venue that accommodates those needs. – Plan ahead: Discuss your needs and preferences with your date ahead of time, so they can make any necessary arrangements. This can include things like seating arrangements, menu options for dietary restrictions, or any other accommodations. – Be yourself: It’s natural to feel self-conscious on a first date, but remember to be yourself and let your personality shine. Your disability is just one part of who you are, and the right person will appreciate and accept you for all of your qualities. – Have fun and relax: Dating should be enjoyable, so try to relax and have fun. Focus on getting to know your date and building a connection, rather than worrying about your disability. – Trust your instincts: If at any point during the date you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, trust your instincts and take appropriate action. Your safety and well-being should always be a priority. If you’re looking for more information / resources on accessible and inclusive dating, why not check out our article ‘Dating agency launched to combat loneliness among adults with learning disabilities’ and learn how the charity Luv2meetU aims to combat loneliness by helping adults with learning disabilities start friendships and relationships. Images courtesy of Adobe Stock Images.
The challenges facing learning disabled women this International Women’s Day
Women with a learning disability experience double discrimination simply for being a woman and having a learning disability. They face significant challenges in many areas of life including employment, housing and health which often stem from negative attitudes, stereotypes and prejudice. This International Women’s Day, learning disability charity Hft is calling for greater recognition of the additional challenges learning disabled women face, calling out discrimination and encouraging inclusion. Steve Veevers, CEO of HFT, explains, “We recognise that things need to change to make the world a more inclusive place for learning-disabled women. “According to statistics from the United Nations, women with disabilities are two to three times more likely than other women to experience violence, two times less likely than men without disabilities to be employed, and are severely under-represented in decision-making, with just 2.3% of women with disabilities holding a position as a legislator, senior official or manager. “We need to do better. Through our campaigning plan, Voices for Our Future, which outlines the changes that learning disabled adults would like to see in the UK, we will work to ensure learning disabled women are listened to, including by decision-makers in Whitehall and Westminster, and are part of the change that is so necessary.” One of the four themes highlighted by Voices for Our Future is attitudes. Rachael Stead, a woman who attends the charity’s friendship group Luv2meetU, has spoken out about her own experience of prejudice and says she is calling for change because “it has happened to me and I don’t want it to happen to anyone else”. Rachael has also joined the Walk in Our Shoes Network which was set up by Hft to ensure its campaigns are truly informed by the voices and opinions of learning disabled adults. Mr Veevers continues, “Negative attitudes can exacerbate existing challenges facing learning disabled women and are wrongly still commonplace in society. We would like to see the Government take proactive steps to stop disability hate crime once and for all, and educate those from a young age to remove stigma surrounding learning disabled adults.” Mr Veevers also pays homage to the staff working in the adult social care sector: “As a man who works in a mostly female organisation and industry, I have to say, I feel it’s my honour to celebrate the women in my life and workplace. After all, I’m not just surrounded by strong, intelligent women every day – I also owe my entire career to them. “Let’s face it… we wouldn’t be where we are today without the women who came before us. From Ada Lovelace, the world’s first computer programmer, to Katherine Johnson, the NASA mathematician who helped put a man on the moon, women have been breaking barriers and smashing stereotypes since the beginning of time. “And yet, despite all their accomplishments, women still face systemic and widespread discrimination and inequality. From the gender pay gap to the lack of female representation in leadership positions, there is still so much work to be done. “So, on this International Women’s Day, let’s make a pledge to do better. It’s not enough to just talk about the issues; we have to take tangible steps towards progress. Let’s listen, educate ourselves, and take action. Because when we elevate women, we all rise together.” Stay up-to-date with Ucan2 magazine, subscribe today!
Beyond Words to create 300 new Book Clubs for people with learning disabilities
“I think Book Clubs are brilliant. The books are good, the people are good and you make new friends as well! It makes me feel good to do Book Club.” – Julie Anderson, Book Club co-facilitator. This World Book Day, pioneering visual literacy charity Beyond Words is launching their ambitious new Book Club in a Box project, aiming to create 300 new Book Clubs for people with learning disabilities by 2026. The Book Club in a Box is a free pack of books and materials that will enable people, charities and organisations to kickstart a Book Club in their local area. Beyond Words Book Clubs are a safe space for people with learning disabilities to make friends, have fun and talk about the issues that affect their lives. They use Books Beyond Words, a series of word-free, age-appropriate picture stories that explore a huge range of topics, from relationships and building community to trauma and mental & physical health. By reading what they see in the pictures as a group, members build a story prompted by the images and informed by the their experiences and feelings. The difference Book Clubs make to people with learning disabilities is life-changing. Julie Anderson, a co-facilitator of two Book Clubs and who has a learning disability herself, said: “It’s been really good for me. You meet new friends, but I met an old friend I hadn’t seen for 20 years through my Book Club, too. One of my Book Clubs is even international – we have one person from Finland and one from Scotland. They came to visit one day when it was on Zoom and then stayed. The people that come say the Book Clubs are friendly and they like doing them.” Julie is also the co-author of The Book Club, a word-free picture book included for free with every Book Club in a Box. All Beyond Words books are produced with people with learning disabilities, and often trialled by Book Clubs, to make sure they are accessible for a wide range of individuals. Thanks to generous funding from the National Lottery Community Fund, the charity has been able to develop the free box of resources. It can easily be sent out to organisations and individuals who want to set up a Book Club in their local area. The boxes include 30 Beyond Words books, guidance on setting up your own club, promotional materials, member badges and lanyards and more, and is completely free of charge to anyone in England. Librarian Aisha Affejee has overseen the development of a huge network of Beyond Words Book Clubs across Kent Libraries over the last 12 years. “I think they’re beautiful. They are so unique – and they work to welcome everyone. There is not one person that I know that’s gone to one and said I don’t want to do that. Everybody always enjoys them so much. Not only do the Book Clubs provide the space for people with learning disabilities to have fun and make friends, but they also bring them into contact with their communities, breaking down barriers and building real connections.” Organisations and individuals can request a kit through Beyond Words’ website (www.booksbeyondwords.co.uk/bciab) or by contacting the charity via bookclubs@booksbeyondwords.co.uk. Creating a Book Club is easy once you have the kit – all you need are the people who will attend, a place to host it and to read together. To celebrate the launch of Book Club in a Box, Beyond Words is giving away ebooks of their The Book Group book for the month of March. Visit www.booksbeyondwords.co.uk and use discount code BOOKCLUB24 to get your free copy. Beyond Words have been creating word-free stories about real life for over 35 years. Pictures are often better than words to tell stories about our relationships with other people and ourselves, especially when things are going wrong. With the new Book Club in a Box project the charity will be able to support more people than ever before. Do you have any stories or press releases you would like to see featured on the Ucan2 website? Please get in touch today and we will be more than happy to publish your story. Don’t forget to subscribe and stay up-to-date on all the latest news from Ucan2!
CosySafe Cot from Kinderkey: A Secure Haven Tailored to Individual Needs
In the realm of caregiving and healthcare, ensuring the safety and comfort of individuals with extra care needs is paramount. The Kinderkey CosySafe Cot emerges as a beacon of reliability, offering a perfect solution for parents, caregivers, and healthcare professionals alike. At the heart of the CosySafe Cot is its commitment to customisation. Every cot is meticulously crafted to suit the unique needs of each client. The solid wooden frame and doors present a myriad of options, allowing clients to choose between wooden rails, Perspex panels, or a combination of both. The outward opening doors, situated on one or both sides of the cot, facilitate easy access, catering to the convenience of both caregivers and individuals. One notable feature of the CosySafe Cot is its adaptability in height. Clients can select the height of the sides based on specific requirements, with the capability to construct cots up to 1100mm. For those in need of an even taller solution, the CosySafe Plus steps in, offering the flexibility to be tailored to any height the room can accommodate, ensuring a seamless integration into any environment. The mattress platform is designed with a four-part profiling system, providing flexibility and comfort tailored to individual needs. Available in a range of lengths and widths, this thoughtful design ensures that everyone, irrespective of their unique requirements, can find a perfect fit. The cot’s height adjustability and Trendelenburg tilt further enhance ease of care, acknowledging the practical aspects of daily use. For an added layer of comfort, the CosySafe Cot offers optional padding. Crafted from high-quality, durable materials, this padding ensures resilience against the wear and tear of everyday use. The use of crib 5 material not only makes it waterproof but also antimicrobial, underlining the commitment to maintaining a hygienic and safe environment. Cleaning and maintenance are made hassle-free, aligning with the demands of busy caregivers. Adding a touch of personalisation, Kinderkey provides a spectrum of beautiful colors and patterns for clients to choose from. This wide range of options ensures that the cot can be seamlessly integrated into any space, allowing for a customised touch that suits individual styles. Understanding the unique needs of each client is at the forefront of Kinderkey’s approach. Experienced product technicians are available to assist through onsite assessments or online meetings. This ensures that every detail is considered, and all available options are discussed to create a cot bed that perfectly aligns with the client’s or caregiver’s requirements. In conclusion, the Kinderkey CosySafe Cot emerges not only as a secure and adaptable solution for individuals with extra care needs but also as a testament to the brand’s dedication to customisation, safety, and comfort. For those seeking a reliable partner in caregiving, Kinderkey stands ready to showcase their range of beds and cots. Call today to arrange a viewing at 01978820714 or visit their website. You can view Kinderkey’s “Safe Sleeping Solutions” magazine right here, or find it on our website under the digital Ucan2 magazines section. To stay up-to-date with all the latest products, services, news and advice regarding accessibility and independent living, subscribe to Ucan2 magazine for free and receive all the latest updates straight to your inbox!
smart UK introduces #1 Pro+ to the Motability scheme
smart UK has announced that the award-winning #1 Pro+ is now available to order on the Motability Scheme, opening the door for customers.
London Marathon 2024 offers equal prize money for wheelchair and able-bodied athletes
The London Marathon is the world’s first marathon to offer equal prize money for its wheelchair and able-bodied races, making it a historic moment for disability sports. The London Marathon wheelchair races were already the richest in the world, but a further increase of $54,500 (£43,000) to the prize money means the total prize pot stands at $308,000 (£243,000), creating parity with able-bodied athletes. This means all winners in the elite races of the 2024 London Marathon will receive $55,000 (£43,500), with the runner-up earning $30,000 (£24,000) and third-place $22,500 (£18,000). Hugh Brasher, event director of the London Marathon, said: “We are proud of our history in championing participants with disabilities, from introducing our first wheelchair race in 1983 to hosting the IPC World Championships on multiple occasions and providing a pathway from the Mini London Marathon to the London Marathon and beyond for Paralympic legends such as David Weir. “We are delighted to continue our commitment to disability sport with this landmark move that ensures the prize money available to our elite wheelchair athletes is the same as for those in the able-bodied elite races. “We have made great strides in recent years towards our ambition to make the London Marathon the most diverse and equitable marathon in the world and this is another important step towards achieving that goal.” Wheelchair racing legend David Weir will be racing his 25th consecutive London Marathon in 2024. The eight-time winner says the move to creating parity in the prize pots is something he hopes other events can follow. Weir said: “It’s a very exciting year for me and for wheelchair racing, again London Marathon has set the bar for parity across the racing divisions. This is a huge benchmark for disability sport and I hope other races and sporting bodies can take note.” The 2024 London Marathon takes place on Sunday April 21. The men and women’s elite fields will be announced on Monday February 26. Find out more here: https://www.tcslondonmarathon.com/ Keep up-to-date on all the latest news regarding disabilities and independent living with Ucan2 Magazine, subscribe today and never miss an update.
Blind Broadcaster Highlights Support Available During Power Cuts With Priority Services Register
Blind broadcaster Lucy Edwards urges people needing priority support during a power cut to sign up to the Priority Services Register (PSR)
Be part of The World Triathalon Para Series in Swansea this summer
The world’s best para triathletes are heading to Swansea this summer for The World Triathalon Para Series and there are a host of ways for people of all ages and abilities to join in the fun and swim, bike, and run alongside these amazing athletes. This year’s event sees the biggest opportunity to take part in multi-sport in the event’s three-year history. The World Triathlon Para Series returns to South Wales on 22 June, with racing taking place just months before this summer’s Paralympic Games in Paris. Whilst the elite athletes will be battling it out for vital qualification points for the Games, organisers have announced a range of events and races taking place at the Prince of Wales Dock. Kids can enter the aquathlon (swim, run) and take part in either a timed race or have a go at a multi-sport at their own pace without having to think about a time. The four options for junior participants: All four options are open to participants with and without disabilities. sign up here: https://www.britishtriathlon.org/events/World-Triathlon-Para-Series-Swansea_15378 As with the previous events, 2024 will also provide people aged 15+ with a disability the opportunity to complete a swim, bike, run across much the same course as the elites through the British Paratri Super Series. The Super Series contains two strands, one for anyone aged 15+ with a paratriathlon classification, giving them the chance to gain points for the national series. The second strand is for disabled participants aged 15+ without a paratriathlon classification, providing an entry point into swim, bike, run and paratriathlon. This strand is also open for those whose impairment lays outside the scope of classification, such as participants with intellectual impairments. All events and races on the day will lead participants to the same finish line, with the elite finish area set to welcome Paralympic medallists and first-timers alike. You can find out more about the opportunities to take part on Saturday 22 June below and you can sign up here: https://www.britishtriathlon.org/events/World-Triathlon-Para-Series-Swansea_15378. Ruth Daniels, British Triathlon CEO, said: “This is the largest participation offer we’ve had at World Triathlon Para Series Swansea and for it to come in a Paralympic and Olympic year is really special. “This summer’s events in Paris will be such a motivator to get involved in sport, and I’m delighted that we can get ahead of that and provide these opportunities to experience swim, bike, run on 22 June. “Showcasing and growing paratriathlon and the elite athletes we have here in Great Britain is a major driver behind this event, and I’m really excited that we can work with our partners at Swansea City Council and the Welsh Government to once again bring this event to Swansea.” Dawn Bowden, Deputy Minister for Arts, Sport and Tourism, said: “Welsh Government support for the third-year running will enable this fantastic event to bring an even higher level of inclusion and participation across this exciting sport. “This reaffirms our commitment to the development of disability sport and providing a further platform to promote sporting opportunities for disabled people. I’m delighted to be able to welcome organisers, participants and spectators back to Wales.” Robert Francis-Davies, Swansea Council’s cabinet member for investment, regeneration, events and tourism, said: “There are many opportunities to take part in the 2024 World Triathlon Para Series, Swansea’s third staging of the event. We look forward to welcoming thousands of athletes and supporters. “We’re a city with a passion for sport and with a glorious natural environment for everybody to enjoy – and we’re excited that local people will be inspired to enjoy sport on the weekend of June 22-23. “The World Triathlon Para Series is a major boost to our local economy and we’ll make sure, once again, that local residents, businesses and organisations are fully informed about opportunities and road changes for the event’s big weekend. “It’ll be another big summer of events for Swansea next year as the Ironman 70.3 Swansea is due to take place on July 14, the Wales Airshow is due to take place on July 6-7 and there are big-name concerts arranged for Singleton Park. There’ll be more big announcements to follow.”
Geberit AquaClean Case Study: Billie Orfanelli Turner
Billie Turner from Manchester has Cerebral palsy, a motor disability leaving her wheelchair bound and relying on her parents. The installation of a shower toilet, AquaClean, in her home has returned Billie’s privacy and dignity, which her mother says has given her a whole new independence. The AquaClean from Geberit has been a vital part of independent living for a lot of people like Billie. Billie’s Story 22-year-old Billie lives with her parents in Greater Manchester and has a motor condition which affects her ability to move and maintain balance and posture. Billie spends all day in a wheelchair which can leave her feeling uncomfortable and clammy. Before the AquaClean Billie’s parents would have to clean and dry her, leaving her without privacy and having a negative impact on her sense of wellbeing and dignity. Billie’s parents had begun installing a wet room to increase her independence when Billie’s friend, who is also disabled recommended an AquaClean. Billie’s Occupational Therapist further recommended the installation of a shower toilet, knowing that this would enable Billie to clean herself independently after going to the toilet and give her wellbeing a boost. The Solution Following the recommendation of the Occupational Therapist, Billie’s parents, although dubious at first, installed the shower toilet. Since it’s installation alongside the fitting of the wet room in their home, they have seen a dramatic change in their daughter’s mood. Stylish and innovative, the Geberit AquaClean Mera Care toilet features an oscillating spray arm that cleans at the touch of a button with a jet of warm water and a warm air dryer, offering Billie ease of cleaning after using the toilet Geberit AquaClean Mera Care In addition to an oscillating spray and warm air dryer, the Geberit AquaClean Mera Care toilet boasts a host of additional features to aid personal hygiene and help users like Billie to live a more independent life, including an automatic flush function via user detection, remote control, programmable user profiles for multiple users, and a continuous flow heater for constant warm water. Geberit has taken every ounce of its 150 years of experience in helping to understand the wants and needs of its customers and put that into creating a product that can make a guaranteed difference to the way customers live day in day out. Everything is designed with comfort and convenience in mind, and the Geberit development team is constantly evolving and enhancing every aspect of the product to ensure it meets the needs of the customer. Billie’s mother, Kim says: “It’s such a relief that there is no longer a struggle, and she doesn’t have to rely on others to be hygienic, she feels fresh all the time now.” The Future Since the installation of the Geberit Mera Care toilet Billie is able to rely less on her parents and enjoy some privacy and independence. This has boosted her sense of wellbeing and the change in her emotions can be seen by everyone around her. Billie’s mother stated: “Billies mood has changed 100 percent. She feels so much better in herself now that she has privacy and it’s given her a whole new independence, it’s amazing. The toilet has made a big difference in my daughter’s life and to her mood, its brilliant. Thank you for having such a great toilet, thank you so much.” More Details Want to learn more about the shower toilet, AquaClean from Geberit? Check out other case studies such as the AbleStay story here and see how this solution to independent living has improved the lives of others. Don’t forget to subscribe to Ucan2 Magazine and stay up-to-date on all the latest news and stories regarding independent living and accessibility.